Building a Family as a Single Parent through Surrogacy

I didn't go into the surrogacy process thinking I would be a single parent but in life things happen and you must roll with the punches.

I am often asked, "what was it like being a lone with Luca in Mexico for 4 months after he was born."  There were definitely stressful moments, especially because I do not understand/speak Spanish.  I've always been a self sufficient person and having to rely on others to make Luca's pediatrician appointments and schedule taxis (that sometimes never showed up) was incredibly difficult for me and something I don't think I'll ever get used to.

Care Surrogacy Mexico is contacted daily by many single individuals…straight and gay.  If you are female you first need to see your obgyn and have the necessary tests done..(fertility, etc.)  From there you can make a decision on whether you will be using your own eggs or a donor egg.  You also choose a sperm donor if you do not already have someone in mind.  If you are male you will also be required to have your fertility tested to see if you sperm is functioning.   Male clients can use a donor egg…some have even had a friend donate their eggs for the surrogacy.  

Female clients that are using their own eggs will fly to Mexico City, meet with the doctor to start the egg stimulation/transfer process.  Then after about 10-12 days the doctor will implant the eggs into the surrogate.  Afterwards you can fly back home and wait for your pregnancy results.  (If you are using a friend's sperm it's considerate to pay for his travel expenses to Mexico)

Male clients who are using their sperm will fly to Mexico City a day or two before the scheduled egg transfer so the doctor make collect their sperm sample.  After that you are free to leave.  (If you are using a friend's eggs it's considerate to pay for their travel expenses to Mexico)

An important factor to keep in mind as a single parent going through surrogacy is the financial burden.  You do not have two incomes so it's best to set a side extra money.  You will need funds to fly to Mexico City and your stay there as well as Villahermosa when the baby is born.  You will also need available funds for the babies medical expenses, (pediatrician/shots), the ministry for the birth certificate, the embassy for the passport, transportation, food, etc.  Yes, Mexico is less expensive than the U.S. and the U.K. but expenses add up.  You should go into your surrogacy quest mentally and financially prepared.